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A Far Better Thing

A Far Better Thing

Could you do what it takes to keep humanity safe? Even if it means condemning yourself to Hell for all eternity?

2023

Thomas H. Brand

Thomas H. Brand

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Tom Brand
in
Discovering Polyamory

Review: “The Ethical Slut (3rd Ed.) by Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton

When a piece of media is so iconic, when it is so prolific on bookshelves across the polyamorous community, it creates an incredibly high…

Nov 12

A paperback copy of “The Ethical Slut” by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton on a wooden table next to a mug of black coffee.

Nov 12

Tom Brand
in
Polyamory Today

What’s The Best Way To Get Into Polyamory?

Is prioritizing sexual explorations or emotional connections right for you as you begin your polyamorous journey?

Aug 31

A young woman in a yellow top against a plain blue background. She is looking directly at the viewer and holding up her hands as if weighing up to options. Above each hand is a white question mark, symbolising her choices.

Aug 31

Tom Brand
in
Discovering Polyamory

What is a Polycule?

What is a Polycule? How Many People Need To Be In One? Do I Have to be Friends With Them? And What Happens When a Polycule Breaks Up?

Aug 26

A visual depicting a network of connections between small groups of people, ranging in size from 1 to 3 people. Each person is depicted by a small wooden tile on a blue background, with white lines showing the connections between them.

Aug 26

Tom Brand
in
Polyamory Today

What Is Hierarchical Polyamory (And Is It Toxic?)

Can hierarchies in relationships ever be ethical, or are they only ever a tool of control?

Aug 15

What Is Hierarchical Polyamory (And Is It Toxic?)

Aug 15

Tom Brand
in
Discovering Polyamory

Review: “Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hook-Ups, Love, Porn, Consent and Navigating the New Masculinity”…

In Boys & Sex, Peggy Orenstein presents an honest, raw, and oftentimes heartbreaking exploration of how modern sex and relationship culture…

Aug 12

A paperback copy of “Boys & Sex” by Peggy Orenstein on a wooden surface next to a mug of black coffee. The cover is blue, with large white text.

Aug 12

Tom Brand
in
Heart Affairs

You Don’t Have Fulfil All Your Partner’s Needs (And That’s Okay)

Understanding and accepting you can’t provide everything your partner needs is not only liberating, but it might just save your…

Aug 4

A woman sitting in a chair in the middle of a shopping centre, her hands full of bags of shopping and a look of exhaustion on her face.

Aug 4

Tom Brand
in
Discovering Polyamory

Green Flags in Polyamory: Active Communication

We are taught how to talk but not how to actively communicate, and without active communication, polyamory is infinitely harder

Jul 29

Two young women sitting across from each other at a table in a coffee shop deep in conversation.

Jul 29

Tom Brand
in
Polyamory Today

The Dangers of Fetishising Sexuality in Polyamory

Your partner’s bisexuality isn’t about your pleasure

Jul 21

Two women sitting outside in the sun, kissing. They are holding up a rainbow flag, so that the viewer cannot actually see their faces.

Jul 21

Tom Brand
in
Discovering Polyamory

Why Do We All Hate Unicorn Hunters?

What are Unicorn Hunters, why do they have such a bad reputation, and why might they not deserve it?

Jul 15

An attractive man and woman are sitting at a bar, looking directly at the viewer, seductively raising their cocktail glasses as if inviting the viewer to join them.

Jul 15

Tom Brand
in
Polyamory Today

What is Couple Privilege?

How to address the monogamous mindset that can beset non-monogamists of all experience levels

Jul 8

Three people sitting on a park bench. Two of them are in deep conversation, ignoring the third despite the fact they are clearly unhappy with the situation.

Jul 8

Tom Brand

he/him

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Blogging about polyamory, ethical-non-monogamy, and modern relationships | (He/Him) | DiscoveringPolyamory.com | ko-fi.com/discoveringpolyamory

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